5 Tips for Successful Co-Parenting After a Divorce

When you have children with your ex, your relationship doesn’t vanish when the divorce papers are signed. Though you may wish you could, you cannot just forget they ever existed, because you still have a job to do together: raising your kids. Co-parenting can be a beautiful journey if both parties remember that they share a common goal of doing what’s best for the children. Today we’re sharing our five best tips for making the best of your co-parenting relationship.

  1. Keep the past in the past

Don’t go digging through the dirt of old memories and old resentments. If your child sees that you are carrying a grudge against the other biggest role model in their life, it can be extremely upsetting and confusing for them. It is difficult, but do your best to think of your co-parent as your current partner in parenthood rather than your former partner in love. If you have to vent, do it with your friends, not with or in front of your kids. 

  1. Communication is key

Practice your best communication skills. Remember that things like tone can get lost in translation via text, so it’s best to meet in person or talk on the phone about important matters. Avoid using your child as the middleman. Passing messages through your child might seem convenient, but it can put undue pressure on your child, especially if you and your co-parent ever disagree on anything. Your child could easily blame him or herself.

  1. Keep disagreements away from your child

In that same vein, it is probably wise to keep disagreements away from little ears. It is normal to sometimes respectfully disagree with your co-parent about the best moves. When you disagree, try to compromise, but do so out of your child’s hearing range to spare them any emotional turmoil.

  1. Be good role models

Co-parenting is your opportunity to show your child that what you told them when you broke the news about your divorce is true: Both parents still love them and respect one another and will work together as a team to make sure they are okay. Your child will grow up remembering whether or not you handled your co-parenting responsibilities with maturity. If you show them that two people can set aside their differences to work together when necessary, it will be very positive for them. 

  1. Try to focus on the good in your co-parent

So long term, committed, romantic love wasn’t the right fit for you. But you probably liked something about your co-parent at some point along the way. When you’re struggling, it might sound silly, but it can really help to focus on the positive. Is your co-parent patient? Great at comforting your child when they’re hurt? The best homework helper? Build your co-parenting relationship based on the qualities you admire, and it will majorly benefit both you and your child. 

Who can help me with co-parenting questions?

The Sharp & Dye team is here to help you and your ex work together to be the best co-parents you can for your children. We would love to guide you in developing a parenting plan that works for your family. Contact us at (321) 951-7600 today to learn more.

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Lindsey Sharp and Deborah Dye are attorneys who strive to provide compassionate representation and the highest level of service to our clients. The Sharp & Dye team has extensive experience in all areas of family law.

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