Three Pieces of Bad Divorce Advice to Avoid

If you’ve recently revealed to your friends and family that you’re considering divorce, then you know that everyone seems to have an opinion. You’ve likely received more unsolicited divorce advice than you ever thought possible, and while some of it may be helpful and almost all of it is probably well-intentioned, the truth is that some of it is just plain bad. In today’s blog post, we’re breaking down three of the worst pieces of divorce advice we’ve heard and offering our more healthy and productive alternatives.

  1. “You should put your children first and stay together.”

Staying together for the kids isn’t as noble as it sounds. The truth is, as much sadness as a divorce can cause for a child, it’s usually better in the long run for a child to grow up in two happy households instead of one miserable household. Following your heart on this is actually in your child’s best interest because so much of their happiness is dependent on your happiness.

In cases where physical or emotional abuse is at play, it is even more clear that staying together won’t do the children any good. In those cases, it is imperative to get yourself and your child to safety. Even if the abuse has not been directed at the child yet, the risk is far too strong to ignore. 

  1. “Why haven’t you moved on yet?” or “You moved on way too quickly!”

Don’t let anyone impose arbitrary timelines on your life. Everyone moves at their own pace, especially when it comes to relationships. If you fall madly in love with someone new just a month after your divorce is finalized, go for it! If it has been several years and you’re still not ready to take that step, don’t beat yourself up over it. If you decide romantic relationships aren’t for you and you would rather focus on your career, your children, or your creative endeavors, there’s nothing wrong with that either. There’s no magic formula to determine when you should “move on” or what that should look like for you. 

  1. “You can handle this on your own. Don’t bother with the money and effort of hiring an attorney.”

Going into the divorce process without legal representation is rarely a good idea. Even in the least acrimonious of divorces where you both just want to get it over with and stay on good terms, stepping into family court without an attorney by your side leaves you vulnerable. When issues like property division and child custody are sure to arise, it is ill-advised to try to handle it all by yourself.

If you are looking for an experienced family law attorney, the Sharp & Dye team is here for you. Whether you’re facing a divorce or navigating another type of family law matter, we encourage you to contact us  today to learn more about our services. We can’t wait to chat with you soon!

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Lindsey Sharp and Deborah Dye are attorneys who strive to provide compassionate representation and the highest level of service to our clients. The Sharp & Dye team has extensive experience in all areas of family law.

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