Your First Christmas Without the Kids

If you’re feeling blue at the prospect of spending your first Christmas alone after a divorce, you’re not the only one. This impending holiday season may be even more worrisome if your divorce is still relatively fresh or if you’re not on the best terms with your ex. The good news is you can still make the most of the holidays without sinking into sadness–here’s how.

Coping With the Loneliness

The isolation you might feel around the holidays as a newly-single parent can be overwhelming, especially if your social network is relatively small.

However, there’s no rule saying you can’t reach out to your ex around the holidays, especially if the two of you are still on good terms. Fostering friendly relations with your ex may also do your children some good, as they’ll see firsthand that this new family dynamic doesn’t necessarily mean your family is now broken.

If you can, consider celebrating Christmas together for the sake of the kids. Seeing as how disruptive divorce can be to a child’s emotional life, trying to preserve some old family traditions may make the transition smoother for them, especially if the divorce is still relatively new.

If things aren’t so rosy between you and your ex, then consider reaching out to close friends or family members. For the first Christmas after the divorce, it’s both healthy and encouraged to lean on your family a little more than usual. Social interaction with loved ones will alleviate the loneliness and remind you that you are still surrounded by a group of people who love and support you.

New Traditions

As traumatic as divorce can be for all family members, it also presents ample opportunities to create new family traditions during the holidays–including ones for yourself. Divorced couples nationwide often adhere to the “two Christmases” rule, in which the kids enjoy a Christmas celebration (presents and all, most notably) with each parent and their respective families.

But why should the kids get to have all the fun, especially if you’re not the one who has them on Christmas Day? It’s perfectly okay to get yourself a Christmas present, too. Many newly-single parents opt for a short beach getaway around the holidays, while others treat themselves to a big-ticket item they’ve had their eye on for a while. Others, still, would rather round up a group of friends or family members to celebrate with instead, whereas a handful would choose to simply relax for a few days as they gear up for a week of winter vacation with their children.

No matter which route you go, it’s important to create some sort of ritual to remind yourself that the holiday season can still be a meaningful time, even in the absence of your family. There’s no need to set your expectations sky-high, either, even though you might be tempted to try and make your new Christmas traditions as big as the old ones.

At Sharp & Dye, we believe that family comes first, especially during the holiday season. If you find your marriage disintegrating during this special season, we’re here to guide you every step of the way. Our intricate understanding of Florida family law has helped hundreds of Florida families transition into a new dynamic, and we’d love to learn more about how we can help you. To schedule your free consultation, call 321-951-7600 today.

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Lindsey Sharp and Deborah Dye are attorneys who strive to provide compassionate representation and the highest level of service to our clients. The Sharp & Dye team has extensive experience in all areas of family law.

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